1: Share Your Story
First, talk it out. The only surefire way to quiet your inner critic is to talk about what’s going on in your mind. While this may sound simple, it actually is pretty damned tricky. We often think when we are going through something, we are the only ones. However, if you took some time to reach out to a friend or a community of like-minded people, you will probably find that MANY people struggle with being seen. Also, like most things in our head- once we get them out it takes away all of their power and we are more able to take action steps.
We all have those moments when our inner critic gets a little too loud, making us doubt ourselves and our worth. It’s like a storm raging inside our heads, and it can feel isolating. But here’s the thing: you’re not alone. The first step to quieting that inner critic is to open up about what’s going on in your mind.
It’s not easy, I get it. We tend to think we’re the only ones going through these struggles. But trust me, there are others out there who can relate. Take a chance and share your thoughts with a friend or a supportive community. You’ll be surprised by how many people are grappling with similar feelings of self-doubt and fear of being seen. And you know what? Just talking about it can take away some of its power over you.
2: Embrace the Good Stuff
Collect compliments. Many of us toss off when people say nice things to us- but somehow conveniently remember all of the criticism we receive. So the next time someone sings your praises, allow yourself to truly appreciate the harmony and rhythm of that song and what is being said. Write down the experience in somewhere that’s easy to reference- the next time you feel impostor syndrome or fear holding you back, you can combat your own inner critic by referencing all the compliments and affirming things you have heard about yourself. Make an effort to return to this often.
In a world where criticism seems to be everywhere, it’s easy to brush off compliments and affirmations. But those little rays of sunshine can make a big difference. So the next time someone says something nice about you, soak it in. Write it down somewhere you can easily revisit whenever you need a boost.
I know it sounds cheesy, but trust me, it works. By acknowledging the good things people say about you, you’re building up a reserve of positivity to counteract those moments of self-doubt. It’s like having a little cheerleading squad in your back pocket, ready to remind you of your worth whenever you need it.
3: Accept Imperfection and Just Do It
Finally, realize you are not alone. And you always have to start before you’re ready. If you wait until you are 100% ready to be seen, chances are it will never happen. Everyone has to do something for the first time once. Put yourself out there and know that other people’s opinion really does not matter. And when you’re tuning into your most authentic self, you attract people who dig your vibe or energy.
Here’s the thing about being ready: you’re never going to feel 100% ready. Waiting for that perfect moment will only hold you back. Trust me, I’ve been there. But the truth is, every journey starts with a single step, even if you’re not entirely sure where it’s leading.
So embrace the uncertainty and take that first step. It might be scary, but remember, you’re not alone. Everyone feels vulnerable when they’re putting themselves out there. But here’s the secret: the more authentic you are, the more you attract people who vibe with your energy.
So go ahead, share your story, embrace the good stuff, and take that leap of faith. You’ve got this. And remember, being seen isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being real. So own your imperfections and let your authenticity shine. You never know who you might inspire along the way.