Hey there, fellow soul traveler and cosmic baddie 👋✨,
So, you’re going through some serious changes, huh? Maybe you’re switching careers, ending a chapter in your life, or just feeling like the universe is throwing all the curveballs at you. Welcome to the club, my friend! If you’re anything like most of us, it can feel like your life is a rollercoaster with no seatbelt and an occasional “Hold on for dear life!” moment. But guess what? Change is the universe’s way of giving you a glow-up, even if you’re kinda scared of the process.
And while we’re all here for the big transformations, spiritual awakenings, and glow-ups that come with it, let’s be real—sometimes it feels like you’re standing at the edge of a cliff with no idea if you’re about to take flight or face-plant into the abyss.
But here’s the thing: change doesn’t have to be terrifying. It can actually be exciting and full of magic. All you need are some solid tools and a little faith in the cosmic process. So, whether you’re embracing a career pivot, a new relationship, or just shifting your mindset, here are 7 tips to trust change and step into the unknown like the spiritual badass you were born to be:
1. Remember: The Universe Has a Plan (Even If You Don’t) 🌌
Okay, let’s kick this off with some tough love. If you’re freaking out right now, it’s probably because you’re trying to control the outcome. But guess what? Control is an illusion. And while that might sound like a self-help meme, it’s actually real. Over my many years of going through so many WTF moments, I’ve realized that the Universe’s plan is usually way more genius, divine, and creative than my own. The Universe has your back, even when you feel like you’re walking through a fog. So let go of trying to micromanage every step of the way. Trust that things are unfolding as they should.
Tip: Instead of obsessing over the “how” of your transformation, focus on the “why.” Why do you want this change? What’s your vision for your future self? Ask the universe to guide you, and then sit back and let things unfold.
2. Start Small—Baby Steps Are Still Progress 🚶♂️✨
It’s tempting to think that if you’re not making huge, life-altering decisions every single day, you’re failing. But here’s the truth—change doesn’t have to happen overnight. Baby steps are still steps forward. Every little choice you make, every tiny shift in mindset, adds up to the bigger picture. In fact, the real sustainable, beautiful, life-changing, expansive change I’ve found is more about taking those small, consistent steps. So, don’t stress about having it all figured out. Just keep moving.
Tip: Celebrate the small wins. Did you send that email you’ve been putting off? Win. Did you meditate for 5 minutes instead of your usual 0? Major win. Every shift counts.
3. Trust the Timing of Your Life ⏳
This one is tough, but hear me out. We live in a world where everyone’s highlight reel is online for the world to see, so it’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind. But here’s the spiritual secret: timing is everything. Your life is unfolding exactly as it should. You don’t need to be on anyone else’s schedule. There were so many times I stressed about when my career would take off, when I’d have certain parts of my life “figured out,” or if and when I’d have children. What I learned looking back is that every twist and turn in the road prepared me to expand my container and capacity to receive, to truly be present with these gifts—and to have them on my terms, as opposed to trying to fit my happiness into a cookie-cutter version of it that wasn’t ultimately for me. When you’re meant to get that promotion, meet that soulmate, or figure out your purpose, it’ll happen, and you’ll be exactly where you need to be to make sure it’s aligned with your highest truth!
Tip: When you feel anxious about timing, take a breath. Trust that the universe has its own clock, and it’s perfectly attuned to your energy. Say to yourself out loud, “I trust the rhythm of my life, and I’m right on time. I am on (insert name here)’s time, and that is divine.”
4. Embrace the Messy Middle (It’s Not a Failure, It’s the Process) 💫
Here’s a little secret: the “middle” part of any transformation is always messy. You know that awkward stage when you’re not quite who you used to be, but you’re not yet who you’re becoming? Yeah, it’s uncomfortable, but it’s also where the magic happens. Think of it like the cosmic cocoon before you emerge as a butterfly. If you really think about it, for that caterpillar, this part of the metamorphosis process probably sucks. It’s dark, it’s lonely, it starts to get super cramped, and that caterpillar might really be doubting if they made the right call. And right at the moment of peak frustration, when it feels like nothing is happening, I imagine that’s when they burst through that cocoon and discover they can fly, baby. Don’t rush through this messy phase—it’s where your soul is evolving and where you’re being asked to stretch into a new set of wings.
Tip: When things feel chaotic, remind yourself that growth is often uncomfortable. Allow yourself to be in the process, not just the end result.
5. Get Comfortable with Uncertainty (The Universe Loves to Surprise You) 🎲
Look, no one likes feeling like they don’t have it all together, especially if you’re a Type-A planner who likes color-coded calendars and spreadsheets (no judgment—me too). But the truth is, the unknown is where all the magic happens. It’s where the surprises, the gifts, and the synchronicities live. So, instead of feeling afraid of what you don’t know, get curious. It’s not a scary abyss—it’s an exciting, wide-open field of possibilities. My favorite quote from Gay Hendricks says: “Fear is excitement without the breath.” Here’s what this intriguing statement means: the very same mechanisms that produce excitement also produce fear, and any fear can be transformed into excitement by breathing fully with it. Excitement and fear are, in fact, closely intertwined in the brain. They share the same physiological reaction: the adrenaline that courses through the body when a person is scared is the same as when they are excited. The difference is how we interpret the experience. Living in the space of embracing the “I don’t know” while breathing through it is where you allow space for miracles to occur.
Tip: Every time you feel doubt creeping in, remind yourself that the unknown is your playground. Lean into the adventure instead of resisting it. Let the anxiety of the unknown be transmuted into excitement at the possibility of it all through openness and your breath!
6. Surround Yourself with People Who Get It (And Let Go of Those Who Don’t) 💖
In the transformation club, we all fam. Meaning, going through big life changes is NOT meant to be a solo mission. Yes, you have to do the inner work, but it’s way easier when you’ve got a squad who cheers you on through every twist and turn. Seek out people who believe in your potential, people who inspire you to trust yourself more. And, as hard as it might be, let go of the ones who aren’t on the same wavelength. You don’t need negative energy or people who doubt your growth. When it comes to your people, quality > quantity, so keep your circle tight with those who uplift you.
Tip: If someone’s energy feels draining or limiting, it’s okay to set boundaries. Your growth matters more than maintaining old connections that no longer serve you.
7. Celebrate Your Transformation (Even When It’s Not Done Yet) 🎉✨
Transformation doesn’t happen in one fell swoop. It’s a process, and that process deserves to be celebrated! Even if you’re not at the “final destination” yet (spoiler: there is no final destination—it’s all a journey), you deserve to acknowledge the shifts, growth, and wins along the way. It’s soooo easy to focus on all the work ahead or all the ways you’re not where you want to be yet, BUT when you honor where you’ve been and how far you’ve come, you create even more space for the new to enter your life.
Tip: Throw a mini celebration for your journey! Even if it’s just lighting a candle and journaling about your progress. Recognize your efforts and let the universe know you’re ready for the next chapter.
Wrapping It Up 🌈✨
Change is tough. The unknown is intimidating. But guess what? You’ve got everything you need to navigate this transition with grace, strength, and trust. Life is about evolution, and you are always becoming something new—something more aligned with your highest self. So, the next time you’re standing at the edge, about to leap into the unknown, take a deep breath, throw your arms wide open, and trust that the universe is right there with you—guiding, supporting, and cheering you on.
You’ve got this. Let’s do this, you beautiful and blooming baddie 🌻
Xo,
Madi
Ready to step into the unknown like a pro? Let me know which tip resonated with you most! 👇 Or if you’ve got any of your own transformation tips, drop them in the comments—I’m all ears 🙌
