Hereโs the truth: we have never needed heart-centered, sensitive, empathic humans in leadership more than we do right now.
And when I say โleadership,โ Iโm not only speaking to the CEOs, corporate leaders, or baddies with a big social media following. Iโm talking to the mamas, the teachers, the healers, the service providers, the nurses. The women & space holders who are the backbone of our society. This oneโs for you.
So you have a vision. An impact you know youโre meant to have on the world.
Maybe youโve committed your lifeโs work to the practice of Reiki, here to bring more light to the planet through energetic healing. Maybe youโre an artist, whoโs devoted to helping others express themselves more authentically while filling the world with more beauty and color.
Your vision, and your ability to walk it out, depend on you feeling energetically resourced, clear, and connected.
Empath Boundaries: What They Are And Why You Need Them
As an empath or highly sensitive person, your energy field is receptive and open. Have you ever noticed that random strangers at the grocery store or hair salon love opening up to you about their personal lives? Thatโs because of you, bb.
Youโve just got this way about you. Your aura attracts vulnerability in others, because people can sense that their stories are safe with you.
You have a gift for listening and holding space. However, when this gift goes unchecked, without boundaries, mindful self-care, and energetic protection practices, it can quickly become a drain on you and your life force.
Empath boundaries are the toolkit of personal standards, rules, and practices that help you to stay open, loving, and receptive without taking on the emotions or experiences of other people.ย
Just like therapists need therapists, empaths need empath boundaries.
Think about it like this. When youโre listening to a loved one whoโs going through a period of heightened emotionโgood or badโyouโre so in it with them. Their pain is your pain, their joy is your joy. And this ability to empathize, relate, and connect is truly one of the most magical qualities of the human experience.
But imagine finishing a phone conversation after a long, intense vent sesh with your bestieโฆ and never actually hanging up the phone. The line is openโyou have an ear to the rest of their day, their interactions, conversations with their partnerโฆ This energy lingers with you. And your energy lingers with them.
Empath boundaries and energetic hygiene practices help you hang up the phone.
Youโre able to stay in your power and agency. You love and lead with an open heart, knowing that if ever you feel drained from holding space for others, you have practices, routines, and support to fall back on, to get you back to full capacity.
This allows you to stay in the work you love and the service you live for, sustainably, so that you can make a remarkable, lasting impact on the world. And god, do we need that!
Here are a few simple energetic hygiene practices and empath boundaries to help you stay in your power and lead from the heart:
#1: Saying No & Honoring Your Limits
โTraditionalโ boundaries can be empath boundaries too! When you can sense youโre at your limit and your container is full, honor your sacred no. Choosing not to take on that project, last-minute client session, or phone call when youโre low on bandwidth is the highest act of service you can offer.
Want to learn more about boundaries and how to set them? Check out our article, โThe Power of Boundaries: A Revolutionary Guide.โ
#2: Grounding Your Energy
We each have an energy body, or aura, that needs loving careโjust like our physical bodies.As empaths and intuitives, we have a strong connection to our emotional world and to other dimensions and layers of the spiritual world. Itโs vital for your physical, emotional, and energetic health to practice grounding your own energy on a regular basis.
If you can get out in nature, or even that little patch of grass outside your apartment, putting your bare feet on the ground and visualizing your connection to the earth can be wildly effective at grounding your system when you feel untethered.
Before each and every client session, reading, or coaching call, I ground and run my energy. I visualize my grounding cord at the base of my spine or the bottoms of my feet, and imagine it dropping down through all the layers of the earth, all the way to the earthโs core. I feel that connection, the grounding earth energy rising back up to meet me, and know that Iโm locked in and tethered. This has made a WORLD of difference in my own life, and also for my clients.
P.S. – I have a free grounding meditation on my podcast, Say More. Listen here!
#3: Nervous System Regulation & Somatic Processing
As a highly sensitive human, you also have a highly sensitive nervous system! Nervous system regulation refers to practices and techniques that help maintain or restore balance between your Parasympathetic Nervous System (โrest and digestโ) and your Sympathetic Nervous System (โfight or flightโ).
Somatic processing is a therapeutic approach that focuses on the connection between the mind and body, particularly how the body stores and expresses trauma, emotions, and stress.
Grounding, mentioned above, can be a somatic regulation tool. Through awareness, practice, and education, youโll notice how your body holds onto different emotions and experiences. Some of my favorite teachers and practitioners of somatic and body-based healing are Madison of Radiant Somatics, and Shantani Moore, who is a Spinal Energetics Practitioner.
#4: Energetic Sorting, AKA, โIs this mine?โ
Get in the habit of asking yourself, โIs this feeling, thought, or emotion mine?โ Through practice and discernment, youโll be able to identify when youโre feeling your own feelings, or someone elseโs. When youโre in a group space or experiencing the energies of a lot of people at once, this tool is going to help you so much.
#5: Clearing Your Energy Field
Create a ritual and routine out of cleansing and clearing your energetic field. You can do this through movement, like โsweepingโ the energy off your physical body or third eye with your hands; through visualization, imagining the energetic cord between you and another person or situation being cut or retracted back to you; sound, by humming or clapping to clear old/other energy; or by working with clearing crystals like selenite.
Your job as an empath is to be a mirror, not a sponge. Taking on othersโ emotions doesnโt help them heal, and it can be detrimental to your own well-being, too. Find what works for you and stick to it! And if you feel like โnothing is happening,โ thatโs okay. Your intention is what matters most.
To learn more about energetic protection, check out our article, โEnergy Protection 101.โ
#6: Opening & Closing the Sacred Container
Especially when doing spiritual, intuitive, or group healing work, itโs so important to open your sacred space and then close it, when youโre finished. Opening your space is the process of โpicking up the phone.โ Perhaps you speak (or think in your mind) an invocation to call in your highest healing guides, angels, or benevolent ancestors, declaring your space is now open. Maybe youโre a healer or intuitive and you imagine calling in your client or patientโs guides or higher self (with consent).
To close the container, Iโll often say out loud, โThis container is now closed. Thank you, guides!โ or, โIโm hanging up now,โ paired with a sweeping motion in front of my body as if Iโm physically shutting the container down. Donโt forget to hang up the phone!
#7: Asking for Guidance & Receiving Support
Whether youโre seeking the mentorship of a trusted coach or advisor, calling a friend to cry it out, or calling on your spirit guides to hold you in times of uncertainty, itโs true that the best way to receive guidance and support is to ask for it. Itโs not up to you to have it together all of the time. Practice surrendering control, be open to answers and miracles, and remember youโre never alone.
#8: Prioritizing Pleasure
Choose joy! Prioritizing your pleasure and enjoyment, laughter, orgasms, the things that light you up, is perhaps the most effective way to increase your capacity and expand your impact. Centering pleasure in a world that has conditioned us to hustle and grind is the ultimate act of rebellion.
These are revolutionary times weโre living in, baddies! I hope these tools help you feel more empowered, regulated, and supported in loving and leading from the heart center.
Empath boundaries and energy protection are some of my favorite topics to teach on! Connect with me on Instagram @byaudreywhelan and let me know which of these tips resonates with you the most.